Saturday, October 31, 2009

Gentlemanly Dress



"The well-dressed man is always a paradox. He must look as though he gave his clothes no thought and as though literally they grew on him like a dog’s fur, and yet he must be perfectly groomed. He must be close-shaved and have his hair cut and his nails in good order (not too polished). His linen must always be immaculate, his clothes “in press,” his shoes perfectly “done.” His brown shoes must shine like old mahogany, and his white buckskin must be whitened and polished like a prize bull terrier at a bench show. Ties and socks and handkerchief may go together, but too perfect a match betrays an effort for “effect” which is always bad.
  The well-dressed man never wears the same suit or the same pair of shoes two days running. He may have only two suits, but he wears them alternately; if he has four suits he should wear each every fourth day."

Sounds high maintenance doesn't it? I'm not certain this fastidiousness of men's dress would be welcome today - if my man took longer than me to get ready for an evening out I think I would become irritable. However, I certainly appreciate the idea of a gent who looks naturally put together.

There was only one style of dress that was appropriate for a man. Anything European. Bond Street simply set the standard for men as Paris set it for women's couture. Everything else is a bad copy. Ms. Post unequivocally preferred English tailoring to American - actually referring to American suits as "the freak American suit" . As is her way, the gloves are removed when sparring:


"It would seem that some of our great clothing establishments, with an eye to our polyglot ancestry, have attempted to incorporate some feature of every European national costume into a “harmonious” whole, and have thus given us that abiding horror, the freak American suit."

She insists a gentleman must be educated in the art of choosing a good suit and/or a good tailor; English tailors of course, being the best. If you can find a good American tailor, it is only because his clothes are identical to those of an English tailor.

Funny, one of her pet peeves is clothing that is worn too tightly. Well fit clothes are perfect in line and shape, not worn too tightly. The same holds true today, but more for the ladies fashions. Just because something is worn tightly around the body, does not mean it is sexy.


Dreadful.

I think I could fill Ms Emily Post's shoes. My irritations with bad etiquette seem very close to hers!


Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Queen of the Cannibals

There are those who do not know the difference between ostentation and extravagance. Ostentation in fashion happens to people when, according to Emily Post, "...no matter what the fashion of the moment may be, are always too elaborate for the occasion; too exaggerated in style, or have accessories out of proportion. People of uncultivated taste are apt to fancy distortions; to exaggerate rather than modify the prevailing fashions..."

Certain amounts of extravagance are perfectly acceptable. I enjoy my glass of port before going to bed....or that piece of chocolate cake after dinner. But extravagance can become dishonest if carried beyond one’s income.
 
"The woman of uncultivated taste has no more sense of moderation than the Queen of the Cannibals. She despises sensible clothing; she also despises plain fabrics and untrimmed models. She also cares little (apparently) for staying at home, since she is perpetually seen at restaurants and at every public entertainment. The food she orders is rich, the appearance she makes is rich; in fact, to see her often is like nothing so much as being forced to eat a large amount of butter—plain."

And I like my butter...should I switch to margarine?

No. Beautiful and valuable items are extravagant for most of us. Not in the sense that they are overdone, but in the sense that they are meaningful. My collection of vintage clothes may be extravagant, but it is a collection, something of value to me.

Emily Post describes extravagance thus:

"To always to wear new gloves is an extravagant item for one with a small allowance—but scarcely vulgar! A laundry bill can be extravagant, flowers in one’s city house, a piece of beautiful furniture, a good tapestry, each is an extravagance to an income that can not easily afford the expenditure. To one sufficient to buy the tapestry, the flowers are not an extravagance at all.
To buy quantities of things that are not even used after they are bought is sheer wastefulness, and to buy everything that tempts you, whether you can afford to pay for it or not, is, if you can not afford it, verging on the actually dishonest."

It is so refreshing to read that wastefulness was not appreciated back in 1922. Just as the war made people realize that luxuries can be taken too far, so too our recent global recession has scaled back our tastes. Sales in luxury goods are down - not because we do not like them, but rather, is it necessary?


Well, if you insist on buying that ballgown, just don't wear it to breakfast.



John Galliano's Christian Dior's 2007 Fall Couture Collection


Saturday, October 24, 2009

Suitably Chic

What exactly is a chic woman? Ask five different people and you will most likely receive five completely different answers. According to Ms. Emily Post, "the woman who is chic is always a little different. Not different in being behind fashion, but always slightly apart from it."

To continue with the last post, not all the new fashions are necessarily suitable for everyone. The chic woman may embrace the latest and greatest fashions, but will adapt it to her own body type, age, color, etc...Anyone who has any clothes sense "knows more or less the type of things that are their style—unless they have such an attack of fashionitis as to be irresponsibly delirious."

Fashionitis?!?! Now that's a great word. Next time you spot a woman (or man) mixing more than 2 fashion styles together, or wearing something completely unsuitable to their person, you can officially use the word 'fashionitis'.

Katie Holmes, Anna Wintour and Britney Spears have had 'fashionitis' attacks.



 Not age appropriate, not stylish, awkward fit, not suitable....just to name a few points.

Ms. Post expands on her fashionitis theory. Clothes that are not age appropriate or non-flattering to one's appearance is equally important as buying beyond your means. "One must not buy clothes out of proportion to your income, or out of keeping with your surroundings." In other words, unless you can afford that Hermes bag because it goes with your Chanel suit and your Laboutin heels, do not pretend you can shop like Victoria Beckham.

More on that in the next post. 


Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Vulgar Sheep

Well, I have begun reading Emily Post's Etiquette and I must say she is a woman of admirable wit with a very sharp tongue! As is often the case, to have good manners and etiquette also means you must have decent moral values and live by the truth. In Ms. Post's case, she insists upon truthfulness and will dish it out with a large shovel. This is most entertaining!

"CLOTHES are to us what fur and feathers are to beasts and birds; they not only add to our appearance, but they are our appearance. How we look to others entirely depends upon what we wear and how we wear it; manners and speech are noted afterward, and character last of all."

Ms Post asks, "What makes a brilliant party?". Accordingly it is good clothes as a 'frumpy' party is nothing more than a collection of badly dressed people. One can have brains, beauty, finances but if they are badly dressed, can verge on having a vulgar appearance.

Ouch!

A chic woman (she mostly notes females to begin with, having an entire chapter devoted to gentleman's dress), does NOT buy the latest, greatest and newest fashions. Those that do, are referred to as a 'dressed-to-the-minute' woman. They do not take into consideration if the latest, greatest and newest fashions actually suit them. Grouping these ladies and comparing them to sheep, she takes some of the recent fashions in the early part of the 20th century and describes them thus:

"When hobble skirts are the thing, the fattest wabble along, looking for all the world like chandeliers tied up in mosquito netting. If ball dresses are cut to the last limit of daring, the ample billows of the fat will vie blandly with the marvels of anatomy exhibited by the thin. Comfort, convenience, becomingness, adaptability, beauty are of no importance. Fashion is followed to the letter—therefore they fancy, poor sheep, they are the last word in smartness."

Did I mention she was brutally honest? The word 'fat' comes up a lot. 
 
Some suitable clothes.



 

 

 



Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Etiquette - A Personal Rant


Emily Post, c. 1900, photo courtesy of The Emily Post Institute

"Etiquette must, if it is to be of more than trifling use, include ethics as well as manners. Certainly what one is, is of far greater importance than what one appears to be. A knowledge of etiquette is of course essential to one’s decent behavior, just as clothing is essential to one’s decent appearance; and precisely as one wears the latter without being self-conscious of having on shoes and perhaps gloves, one who has good manners is equally unself-conscious in the observance of etiquette, the precepts of which must be so thoroughly absorbed as to make their observance a matter of instinct rather than of conscious obedience." Emily Post, 1922

I often say I'm not surprised by anything anymore. Until it comes to a person's manners. I have seen dreadful manners and behavior by too many - particularly having worked in the restaurant industry for 20 years you can imagine what I have seen and been the recipient of!

Unfortunately, when someone is actually nice today, it is surprising. We look upon that person perhaps as being 'odd' - even wondering if they have an 'alterior motive'. I believe it comes down to a matter of trust, which is lacking in many of us - an unfortunate sign of the times.

I thought I would do a series of etiquette posts based on Emily Post and her famous publication of 1922, Etiquette in Society, in Business, in Politics, and at Home. This book was a best seller then, and continues to be revised and updated clearly showing an interest in good behavior. So why haven't more of us caught on?



Emily Post on her radio program, c. 1942 photo courtesy of The Emily Post Institute

I have never read her book, but as I do in the coming week or two, particularly the sections on dress, I will summarize and comment on Emily's ideas of etiquette. I'm sure we will all learn a thing or two!

Sunday, October 18, 2009

Latin Music USA



I just love Latin music. The Mambo, Salsa, Cha Cha, Rumba.... and PBS. What do these have in common you ask? There is a fabulous 2 part series on PBS titled "Latin Music USA".  Narrated by Jimmy Smits, it is a look at the history and roots of Afro Cuban music. I guarantee that your toes will be tapping and you won't be able to sit still.

"From Latin jazz and mambo to salsa, Tejano, Chicano rock, Latin pop and reggaeton, LATIN MUSIC USA tells the story of the rise of new American music forged from powerful Latin roots and reveals the often overlooked influence of Latin music on jazz, hip hop, rhythm and blues and rock 'n' roll."

Part II tomorrow night, Monday, 9pm. Here is the link to watch it online if you miss it.

http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/latinmusicusa/

Get yourself a cocktail and enjoy!


Lucy, Ricky & Little Ricky. 

 




 


Friday, October 16, 2009

Mad for Plaid - Seriously!

So how much plaid can YOU handle? I love plaids, tweeds and anything that reminds me of an English, lavender scented countryside. Throw in a warm brandy and a fireplace and there is no turning back for me.




But when I came across this photo, I laughed. Clearly an advertisement, but sometimes there is just overkill and your eyes start to cross. Tis the season for plaid and tweed.




 


 

 

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Culture of Cheap

Did you know it's expensive to be cheap?

How many times have you bought an item for cheap only to be disappointed? You probably had to replace that item shortly after purchase, or worse, throw it away. In North America, we have become a group of discount shoppers buying items that are cheap and poorly made - disposable items, not made to last a long time.

Discount shopping stores like Walmart stock items that do not reflect quality or durability. On average, North Americans buy a new piece of clothing every 5 days. I'll bet the last time you went to an outlet mall you spent a ton of money and thought you saved, but a recent study has proven that we spend 80% more on shopping trips to outlet malls than the regular shopping mall. Storage companies are the largest growing sector as people need a place to keep all their stuff - it might be a wise investment to buy some stock in "Public Storage".

Looking for quality instead of quantity can actually save money. Discount stores have contributed to our spending habits and it's a movement that needs to slow down. Consumers need to become more interested in true value rather than the price. Generally, if something is more important to you, you will most likely research it before buying- like a car or house. Perhaps we should apply this way of thinking to everything we buy.

A fascinating book by Ellen Ruppel Shell Cheap: The high cost of discount culture

Let's look at some value items.



 









Sunday, October 11, 2009

The Glamorous Days of Flight

Back in the early days of passenger flights, taking a flight was a glamorous event. Dressing up for your journey was expected - suits, hats, pearls....and you were served champagne and ate with silverware, not plastic cutlery. Customers on board planes were treated extremely well, as they were often privileged enough to afford the price of flying.

The first female stewardess was hired by United Airlines in 1930 and from then on, airlines preferred ladies serving their customers. There were specific hiring practices and most airlines followed these strict rules. A stewardess had to be a female, a registered nurse, under 26 years old and single! Chatelaine magazine dubbed the ladies, "little housekeepers in the clouds". They were impeccably dressed and when the mini skirt became popular in the sixties, flight attendants became sexy.

Today, the novelty has worn off for most of us. Although I still love to travel and fly, I admit that I prefer first class (insert snob here), and the whole airport experience has become unpleasant. The business of flying is so huge and corporate, the little niceties have disappeared. Let's reflect.





 






That's glamorous.

Friday, October 9, 2009

1950s Cruisin'



The cruise ship company, Crystal Cruises has put together a 1950s themed cruise. Aptly named 'Style Cruise', you can sail the Mediterranean for 12 days dressed in vintage and learning about fashion history.

Stylist and costume designer Anna Wycoff and designer Gayle Davis will present a colorful look at the evolution of European fashion and cinema costuming, offering advice on personal styles....so you can perfect your vintage look!

The cruise will have a fashion show, seminars, and afternoon tea specifically in the 1950s theme.

This is a vintage fashionista's dream! I've never been on a cruise, but when I'm ready to sail I will be looking for something like this one.

Let's get dressed for cruisin'...wouldn't this be fun!







 

 



 

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Father Knows Best



The TV series Father Knows Best debuted this week in 1954.


It was about a whole herd of now outdated concepts like being a happily married couple with self motivated family members who all turned up for a home made healthy dinner at the same time, and were polite. Text messaging was written on a chalk board in the kitchen.


Well, we can at least look like the Andersons!